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Showing posts with label Urban living. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Urban living. Show all posts

Friday, 6 January 2012

Why the Rush? - answer to an unanswered question!

The topic is very very vague and equally usual in every way. Everyone from elders in your family to thinkers from the society keep on asking the young lot of today, that where are they rushing to. The question is popped out of concern, out of curiosity and mainly out of frustration of not being able to catch up with them.

So let's finally face this question and try to answer it with all genuineness. We are here going to take the liberty of answering it on behalf of the young, busy & in-a-hurry generation.

"We are not in any rush, to start with. We are quick in making decisions, multi-tasking is our passion and swiftness in our thoughts is need of the time. We can't simply afford to sit back and listen to elders and follow their directions. We are neither interested in knowing how gradual-progress leads to sustenance as we have many examples of people making quick fame and money. It's not a rush. Believe us. It's just that you are not used to it. Our future is so vague that we need to try many things in one life-time to reach across to our destiny in a timely manner. We don't believe in retiring in 60s, but may be our 40s and then enjoy our life the way we want. So, relax, chill and take-it easy. We hope we have answered."

Right or wrong, Speak out your opinions....

Thursday, 5 January 2012

A Simple ‘NO’ can change your life.


In India, values and traditions form an integral part of our everyday living. We are into this habit of making sure that we don’t hurt the emotions and expectations of other person. To maintain this sanity in this busy and chaos-filled world is an art and many of us have learned to live up to it. Continuing with the same thought, we are also careful that we don’t disagree or say a ‘NO’ straightforwardly to someone. But have you ever thought that this could damage your own life in various invisible ways?

Recently, a person was really sad that he missed taking his wife out for a dinner on couple’s first anniversary, just because his boss asked him to accompany him to a party where he literally had no role to play. This not only ruined the couple’s mood, but also became the worst memory of their life which they could perhaps never mend.

The point is that one should understand the importance of time and occasion and set priorities before taking a decision. A simple ‘NO’ to the boss could have changed the things positively. So here are few points to keep in mind before saying a ‘YES’ at places where you should actually have said a ‘NO’ –

Value your Time – if someone asks for it, reevaluate your time’s importance and say a gentle ‘NO’.

Know your Priorities – While office work may be important at some point, there may be times when family comes first. Decide your priority and take the right decision.

Practice saying a NO – If you are committing to someone just for the sake of it, it’s better to say a NO and spend some meaningful moments the way you want.

Don’t be Apologetic – Don’t be polite enough to apologize for not saying a ‘YES’. You are the person to decide where your time should be spent. 

Be Prepared – If you are put in an awkward situation where saying ‘NO’ turns difficult, simply postpone your answer saying, “I will get back to you on this.” And once you are prepared, get back to them with a simple ‘NO’.

Wednesday, 4 January 2012

There's a world outside!

There's a world outside... from your sorrows, bad memories, illness, incidents and all...you just need to step out to experience joy, create new memories, feel good and experience joy ...

There's even a world outside this trash in front of you (that's making you read this post), away from this desk of yours, awaiting to be explored and experienced.

It's a fact that bad things attract and you stick around it for so long that they no more appear as bad, but as a part of your life. For example, if you are asked that, "Is Facebook, Twitter and Gmail, a part of your life?" You will take some time to come out with an answer, or probably you will find none. Just before being asked, you considered the online presence as just a part of your day...but you were probably not aware that it has gradually become an inevitable part of your everyday living. You may find time to chat but not to call up someone. You may feel relaxed to have received an email from a friend, but the presence of that very friend may annoy you for no reason.

Its a life when the problems are no more about kids not performing well in school or you not being able to catch up with your parents in other city....rather the issues are bigger ones now - not having internet connection, a crashed disk, not being added by someone on Facebook, not able to see your inmate online the whole day, etc, etc...

So, do you wish to come out of this self-created chaos and congestion on the web? Do you wish to be a part of a life where green leaves are actually swaying in the wind and not because you have an animated wallpaper? Do you ever want yourself to be back at home away from your laptop and mobile to spend some real-time moments with your family? If, yes just follow the line: -
"Here we go...come with me...there's a world outside that we should see..."

Friday, 30 December 2011

How to be Happy in Year 2012 - 10 simple ways :)


1. Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now — the food, the company, the conversation.
2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine, tested 16 men who all agreed they thought a certain videotape was funny. Half were told three days in advance they would watch it. They started experiencing biological changes right away. When they actually watched the video, their levels of stress hormones dropped significantly, while their endorphin levels rose 27 percent and their growth hormone levels (indicating benefit to the immune system) rose 87 percent.
3. Go to sleep. We have become a nation of sleep-deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book — and turning the light out an hour later — can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.
4. Hum along. Music soothes more than the savage beast. Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness — the same parts activated by food or sex. It’s also relaxing. In one study older adults who listened to their choice of music during outpatient eye surgery had significantly lower heart rates, blood pressure, and cardiac workload (that is, their heart didn’t have to work as hard) as those who had silent surgery.
5. Declutter. It’s nearly impossible to meditate, breathe deeply, or simply relax when every surface is covered with papers and bills and magazines, your cabinets bulge, and you haven’t balanced your checkbook in six months. Plus, the repetitive nature of certain cleaning tasks — such as sweeping, wiping, and scrubbing — can be meditative in and of itself if you focus on what you’re doing.
6. Just say no. Eliminate activities that aren’t necessary and that you don’t enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the church bazaar and you’re feeling stressed by the thought of running the committee for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.
7. Make a list. There’s nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.
8. Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you’re writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.
9. Garden. Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.
10. Tune out the news. For one week go without reading the newspaper, watching the news, or scanning the headlines online. Instead, take a vacation from the misery we’re exposed to every day via the media and use that time for a walk, a meditation session, or to write in your journal.

Thursday, 29 December 2011

Count Your Blessings this New Year!

Introduce yourself to inner peace and contentment by counting blessings. It's time to make this New Year even more special. Be grateful to things you earned, received or gathered and were blessed to you. Understand the importance of every little thing in your life and respect them for the same. From being thankful for the loved ones around to those wishes which didn't go unheard, it's time to pay gratitude for them all.

Counting blessings will not only make you feel joy from inside but also help you realize the significance of the good life which you have been blessed with. MyGrahak, together with all its team wishes for a happy New Year for you. May you have many blessings to count for by the end of the year 2012.

Be Good. Stay Happy!

Monday, 19 December 2011

Read the Vibes…stay alert!


How many of you are really, I mean really, able to get vibes, good or bad. How many of you get a chance to say, “yaaa, I used to get those vibes from him/her”. I am right now getting the vibe that most of you would answer in “NO”. But, just imagine how things would have been different if we could really do so. We could have prevented getting cheated by so-called friends. Our Moms would at the very first sight/smell/vibration/voice (the mode of getting vibes may differ, right???) would make the right decision of keeping/rejecting a maid (thus preventing ill incidents). The unemployed engineers would be in great demand as the candidate would just reject an inhuman/workaholic/boring/disgustful boss!!!!

No, no one on this earth can be a perfect ‘vibe reader’. It becomes even more difficult when all the chaos and worries that we carry heavy in our hearts prevents you from concentrating on such subtle and agile emotion – of reading vibes. The result is a superficial perception about things/people that leads to 99% chances of landing you in dismay!

You can also blame your restrained vibe-reading ability to many distractions around you. From over-crowded malls to engaging (& ever-changing) technology, life today is an every-day game. You don’t pay much heed to the long-term consequences but rather prefer concentrating on quick results (only to regret later). The point is to live life in its full charm, but watch your every step, each decision and every action. Just stay alert and study a situation before plunging into a result.

Happy Living!

Saturday, 17 December 2011

Add me in your friend list....

Gone are the days when we used to say, "keep in touch" to our friends at the beginning of vacations or at the end of school or college or after spending vacations with cousins...But what we say now is, "Hey.. do send me invite or add me in your friend list."

And to an extent, the trend of social networking with friends and family has made you to see each other and be in touch (although superficially) with all of them. You no more need to make a phone call or wait for one, or even write a letter and post and then wait for a reply. Everything happens instantly - from posting comments to getting tagged and receiving feedback, its a small world indeed.  But somewhere, somehow, perhaps unknowingly, we have lost the very essence which a "relationship" should hold. The intensiveness, the care and the share has all lost its meaning on our way to this digitally inclined world.

Earlier we used to wait to meet our friends or relatives and it was indescribable when we actually met after a long gap. With the advent of Social Media we are virtually always in touch and so meeting in person doesn't excite much.

Anyways...keep in touch guys! :-D

Friday, 18 November 2011

Quality time with family = True Life!


Today everyone seems to be in a rush… directionless & aimless. Where does this rush lead you to, what are you rushing for is a question for which no one stops for a moments to think of an answer. But when insisted, the answer that comes is a usual one - to give better life to the family, to make them live happily, to earn success and name and what not. But least genuineness is felt in the response as the purpose never seems to get resolved.   

Well, have we ever wondered that how our families need our presence? Though it’s for them that we work and rush but at the end of the day we don’t even get the time and space to interact with them. Spending quality time with family members, sharing happiness and little joys, realizing their individual aspirations and contributing to their life in a meaningful manner is what it takes. But our lifestyle is constantly taking away from the pleasures of being with our family.

There are loads of options of getting close to your family. You simply need to figure it out what works for you and your family together. You will be surprised to see peace and warmth taking upon you instead of tensions and worries. That’s the magic of being with the ones who truly love you.

So, what have you planned for your family this week?
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